Hello Friends of Jerry
I have just emailed further details about the funeral. If you have told me (by email) that you are coming to the funeral and have not received them, please let me know on jerryinyork@yahoo.co.uk.
Best Wishes
Anne Lloyd
Wednesday 24 November 2010
Friday 19 November 2010
Friday 19th November 2010 - FUNERAL
Hello Friends of Jerry
Jerry's funeral has been arranged for Monday 29th November. There will be a non-religious ceremony, in accordance with Jerry's wishes, at 1pm in the chapel at York Cemetery at Cemetery Rd, York, YO10 5AJ (http://www.yorkcemetery.org.uk/) followed by a burial at the cemetery. The walk to the burial site will involve walking over wet grass and the site is quite exposed.
If you want to see Jerry before the burial, he is at the Co-operative Funeral Home, Cromwell Road, York, North Yorkshire, YO1 6DU. Please wait until Weds 24th onwards to visit and please ring the Funeral Home on 01904 643936 at least 1 hour in advance so they know you are coming. I am not sure if viewings are available on the morning of the funeral but I will find out and let you know. Viewings are available at the weekend.
If you intend to come to the funeral, let me know on jerryinyork@yahoo.co.uk as soon as possible, putting 'FUNERAL' as the title of the email. We will have a wake following the funeral at which you would all be welcome and we would like some idea of numbers for catering so please reply. I will then send further information to you later. If you think you MIGHT come, could you also let me know soon to help us plan numbers.
Looking forward to seeing you all.
Best Wishes
Anne Lloyd
Jerry's funeral has been arranged for Monday 29th November. There will be a non-religious ceremony, in accordance with Jerry's wishes, at 1pm in the chapel at York Cemetery at Cemetery Rd, York, YO10 5AJ (http://www.yorkcemetery.org.uk/) followed by a burial at the cemetery. The walk to the burial site will involve walking over wet grass and the site is quite exposed.
If you want to see Jerry before the burial, he is at the Co-operative Funeral Home, Cromwell Road, York, North Yorkshire, YO1 6DU. Please wait until Weds 24th onwards to visit and please ring the Funeral Home on 01904 643936 at least 1 hour in advance so they know you are coming. I am not sure if viewings are available on the morning of the funeral but I will find out and let you know. Viewings are available at the weekend.
If you intend to come to the funeral, let me know on jerryinyork@yahoo.co.uk as soon as possible, putting 'FUNERAL' as the title of the email. We will have a wake following the funeral at which you would all be welcome and we would like some idea of numbers for catering so please reply. I will then send further information to you later. If you think you MIGHT come, could you also let me know soon to help us plan numbers.
Looking forward to seeing you all.
Best Wishes
Anne Lloyd
Wednesday 17 November 2010
Weds 17th November 2010
Hello Friends of Jerry
Sadly Jerry lost his brave fight against cancer and died peacefully and pain free and aware of his surroundings this morning at 1.35am GMT. He deteriorated quickly during Tuesday and that evening was surrounded by love. Through the strength of your support and messages I know that he finally realised how much he was loved and appreciated by all his friends. He spoke about it on Monday.
The response to this blog has been incredible and inspirational. The outpouring of love towards Jerry made a huge difference to him and those of us who looked after him. He has touched and influenced so many lives in so many ways. He truly did have a great life.
He has chosen to be buried in a lovely ancient wildlife cemetery in York. I will post details later. The funeral will not be until after Monday 29th November.
With love and thanks
Anne Lloyd
Sadly Jerry lost his brave fight against cancer and died peacefully and pain free and aware of his surroundings this morning at 1.35am GMT. He deteriorated quickly during Tuesday and that evening was surrounded by love. Through the strength of your support and messages I know that he finally realised how much he was loved and appreciated by all his friends. He spoke about it on Monday.
The response to this blog has been incredible and inspirational. The outpouring of love towards Jerry made a huge difference to him and those of us who looked after him. He has touched and influenced so many lives in so many ways. He truly did have a great life.
He has chosen to be buried in a lovely ancient wildlife cemetery in York. I will post details later. The funeral will not be until after Monday 29th November.
With love and thanks
Anne Lloyd
Monday 15 November 2010
Monday 15th November - 2nd post
Hello - A message from Jerry
Jerry would like to tell you all about Grandma Barbier. When Jerry was about two, his mother was very ill, having had TB. She went to Arizona with Gus his father and Carol his sister for health reasons. During this time Jerry stayed quite a while with Grandma Barbier who was from Bohemia. She was the mother of his Uncle Charlie who was the husband of his mother's sister, Loretta (Aunt Lor). Grandma Barbier and Charlie and Lor lived together and looked after Jerry. Grandma Barbier loved Jerry unconditionally and he loved her too and has remembered this the whole of his life.
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from Anne.......................
This evening, Jerry discovered that pineapple juice goes down a bit easier than water and apple juice. He still sleeps a lot but, again, has enjoyed talking while awake. Physically, he is very frail.
Best Wishes to all
Jerry would like to tell you all about Grandma Barbier. When Jerry was about two, his mother was very ill, having had TB. She went to Arizona with Gus his father and Carol his sister for health reasons. During this time Jerry stayed quite a while with Grandma Barbier who was from Bohemia. She was the mother of his Uncle Charlie who was the husband of his mother's sister, Loretta (Aunt Lor). Grandma Barbier and Charlie and Lor lived together and looked after Jerry. Grandma Barbier loved Jerry unconditionally and he loved her too and has remembered this the whole of his life.
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from Anne.......................
This evening, Jerry discovered that pineapple juice goes down a bit easier than water and apple juice. He still sleeps a lot but, again, has enjoyed talking while awake. Physically, he is very frail.
Best Wishes to all
Monday 15th November
Hello from Anne
Since Friday, Jerry has been slowly weakening. He cannot now sit up unaided. Nutrition has now ceased, as he is unable to swallow any food and he cannot drink except for sips of water. Fortunately, his tablet medication has now been changed to liquid in a syringe except for one small crushable tablet. As he had been having extreme difficulties taking the tablets, this has relieved him of quite a lot of distress. Also, fortunately, he is not in pain and is receiving all the care that he needs. He is very well looked after by the nursing staff.
He is very tired now and does sleep a lot but also has enjoyable waking moments. Recently he has enjoyed looking at his own art works and showing them to others. He has also enjoyed chats with people.
Fortunately, Jerry is still Jerry. When awake he is completely aware of what is happening around him and communicates constantly – taking charge of everything associated with him. He has been talking a lot about what is happening to him and expressing his wishes and feelings.
One thing I have not expressed is how all the nursing staff that come to the house love him and his home. Lots of them say 'I wish I had met him before, he is such a nice man'.
We have a lot more support at home now with Hospice at Home and Macmillan nurses and Marie Curie nurses – all of whom have been faultless. In particular, we have someone to stay with him overnight.
At the moment, all plans are for him to move to the hospice on Wednesday.
I'll keep you posted.
All The Best
Anne x x
Since Friday, Jerry has been slowly weakening. He cannot now sit up unaided. Nutrition has now ceased, as he is unable to swallow any food and he cannot drink except for sips of water. Fortunately, his tablet medication has now been changed to liquid in a syringe except for one small crushable tablet. As he had been having extreme difficulties taking the tablets, this has relieved him of quite a lot of distress. Also, fortunately, he is not in pain and is receiving all the care that he needs. He is very well looked after by the nursing staff.
He is very tired now and does sleep a lot but also has enjoyable waking moments. Recently he has enjoyed looking at his own art works and showing them to others. He has also enjoyed chats with people.
Fortunately, Jerry is still Jerry. When awake he is completely aware of what is happening around him and communicates constantly – taking charge of everything associated with him. He has been talking a lot about what is happening to him and expressing his wishes and feelings.
One thing I have not expressed is how all the nursing staff that come to the house love him and his home. Lots of them say 'I wish I had met him before, he is such a nice man'.
We have a lot more support at home now with Hospice at Home and Macmillan nurses and Marie Curie nurses – all of whom have been faultless. In particular, we have someone to stay with him overnight.
At the moment, all plans are for him to move to the hospice on Wednesday.
I'll keep you posted.
All The Best
Anne x x
Friday 12 November 2010
Friday 12th November
Hello everyone
This is a message from Jerry. I believe that I only have a few more weeks to stay alive. I am planning to go into a hospice on Wednesday 17th November. I have been the last two Fridays to the day centre at the hospice. It is a lovely place. When I am there I will be in a single room which overlooks the garden. It has the facility of the bed being pushed outside into the garden from the room. I would like you to keep thinking of me and wishing me a very pleasant and peaceful death. Thank you for all your support.
Love Jerry
This is a message from Jerry. I believe that I only have a few more weeks to stay alive. I am planning to go into a hospice on Wednesday 17th November. I have been the last two Fridays to the day centre at the hospice. It is a lovely place. When I am there I will be in a single room which overlooks the garden. It has the facility of the bed being pushed outside into the garden from the room. I would like you to keep thinking of me and wishing me a very pleasant and peaceful death. Thank you for all your support.
Love Jerry
Monday 8 November 2010
Monday 8th November
Hello everyone
Jerry did not get to the hospice today and is not yet scheduled to go into the residential hospice for his two-week stay as there is no place available at the moment. He did go in as a day patient on Friday and really liked the place. He painted a lovely silk scarf, which he wears a lot. It is in his favourite colours – blue and brown. He was very tired after the visit but recovered after a good rest.
Fortunately, his life is much calmer now as the mucus patch is working very well and has largely alleviated this problem. His nausea medication also continues to work well. Things are also easier now because we are getting used to his routine which was a lot to take in at first, with different tablets at different times of the day etc and different people arriving at the house at different times. Jerry still has difficulties taking in his food and has to take it very slowly.
Yesterday my family took him into York to the Park Inn, which has a very good view over the river and he enjoyed himself and sat and sketched and we all had a good time too. It was a lovely day.
All The Best
Anne
Jerry did not get to the hospice today and is not yet scheduled to go into the residential hospice for his two-week stay as there is no place available at the moment. He did go in as a day patient on Friday and really liked the place. He painted a lovely silk scarf, which he wears a lot. It is in his favourite colours – blue and brown. He was very tired after the visit but recovered after a good rest.
Fortunately, his life is much calmer now as the mucus patch is working very well and has largely alleviated this problem. His nausea medication also continues to work well. Things are also easier now because we are getting used to his routine which was a lot to take in at first, with different tablets at different times of the day etc and different people arriving at the house at different times. Jerry still has difficulties taking in his food and has to take it very slowly.
Yesterday my family took him into York to the Park Inn, which has a very good view over the river and he enjoyed himself and sat and sketched and we all had a good time too. It was a lovely day.
All The Best
Anne
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